2011年10月20日星期四
In the next chapter, we will look at living
from your strengths. We have so many reasons for our excuses and because we believe that we are so skilled at recognizing excuses in others we full heatedly buy our own load of bull. Fear can reduce the most courageous into a mouse. Lack of self-esteem takes oTN, TN Pas Cher,ver and we unconsciously sabotage any and all attempts at balance and success.Losing Touch With Who You Really Are: Mother, father, psychologist, therapist, lawyer, partner, spouse, cousin, friend, child, associate... We see others accomplish what we believe are greater things and begin to doubt Chaussures Timberland Pas Cher that we are qualified to achieve the same thing. Turn your doubt into deep desire and your resistance into flexibility. The more in balance that we live our lives; the better we are equipped to help others find balance. Makes sense, huh? I want to remind you that because we are a pretty intelligent group, we easily grasp concepts intellectually but are often standing in cement when it comes to letting things sink in emotionally. The difference between those who do and those who do not is the ability to be true to themselves, utilize there own resources and climb out of their own box. We are so much better equipped to help others create better lives if we have experienced true balance ourselves. Learning to find discipline, concentration, and focus is probably the biggest hurdle you will have to climb. Again you must be willing to be honest with yourself to figure this one out. Let yourself grasp this concept on an emotional level.Fear: Can you believe that F-E-A-R is only a four letter word? Unfortunately it is a word that hold such power over us. whatever hat we happen to have on in that moment is the role we play. What Stops You from Living"More than anything else, I believe it's our decisions, not the conditions or our lives, that determine our destiny." -Tony Robbins What stops us from living in balance? We can easily come up with the everyday generic answers like, "Too little time, not enough money", "It takes money to make money!" "I'll rest when I retire, right now I have too much to do.", and "I think I'm in balance, it's everyday life that pushes things out of balance." Most of the excuses we give ourselves encompass a lack of resource or feeling that you are at a disadvantage of some kind. In order to fully accomplish REAL balance in your life you must take a good hard look at the reality of your situation, and your personality. The gratification feels as if it is too far and few between, to put so much energy into it. Guilt about setting boundaries, or possibly disappointing people. What excuses do you give to yourself that you would actually take to the bank? Stop feeding yourself so many excuses and let yourself be free to explore the truth.The reality is... Feeling As If "It's" Just Too Difficult: It is not too terribly difficult to come up with what you need, who you are, what your vision is, or even a plan of how you will accomplish all of this. Guilt if things feel as if they are going too well, and always waiting for the other shoe to drop. ToChaussure Air Max 90 Femme find out more, please visit http://www.sdfamilyservices.com She is also a national speaker on relationship conflict resolution and sex therapy.Dr. Most of us fall back on what we have done in the past, what we find easiest, or what will provide the quickest feelings of gratification with the least amount of effort. Low self- worth leads us to stop pursuing balance, dreams, and our vision. Wise is also a trained child custody evaluator and meets the requirements of California Rules of Court: Rule 5.225, 5.230 and Domestic Violence updates. Feelings of incompetence leaves a nasty residue on so much of what we do. It takes the ability to continue to pursue even when we fall off the track.Perseverance, dedication and commitment - even when you make a mistake - is all that you need. (not in spite of it.) What ever you do, do not be a victim of fear's rapture. You have already accomplished so much in your life; you know what determination means and have the courage to follow through. Develop a triumph over your apprehension. She has brought comfort and understanding to issues surrounding divorce, children, teens, relationships, conflict resolution, sexuality, anxiety, depression, psychological testing and many other diagnostic categories and issues.Dr. Guilt about not putting others first, or second or third.Feeling Unworthy: We spend so much time aspiring to be highly competent, unfortunately more often than not we experience the opposite. Do yourself a favor and pull your feet out of the cement. If you bite off to much to chew, you will quickly become overwhelmed and lose your motivation. You have to ask yourself though, hasn't most everything that you love and value taken time to achieve or build? The best way to combat this issue is to remember that it IS the journey, NOT the destination! Regularly remind yourself of the value and the reasons for staying true to your commitment to your goals and to finding balance in your life. Guilt with a splash of shame, fear, or pride. If you can allow yourself to be human and make mistakes, than you will have the freedom to get back up when you fall. Wise has been practicing for over ten years. The craziest thing of all is that while we want so much to be effective in our lives, we become completely ineffective when we are out of balance. "That would just take so much time!" This is a very common excuse for why we do not pursue our goals or strive for true balance. She is qualified by her knowledge, skill, experience, training and education. Acknowledge it, respect it, and learn to dance with it. It is, however, very difficult to have the staying power to sustain the strong effort it takes to succeed. So how do you conquer fear? Develop an intimate relationship with it.Remember: What you resist, persists! Stare right in its eyes and understand its every breath. We are so good at multi-tasking and "doing it all" that it is very easy to loose touch with ourselves. Christy Wise is the CEO of San Diego Family Services and a licensed clinical psychologist. If you cannot do it yourself, feel free to find the right resources to get you there.Dr. If you are taking a good hard look you might find that the reason for your lack of balance is much greater than you thought.Food for thought: Feelings of Guilt: guilt about our own success, guilt about not achieving what we set out to, guilt about feeling overly self indulgent or appearing self centered. This is not a requirement, this is a choice. Unfortunately this loss of touch means that there is no possibility of achieving true balance. Goals MUST be swallowed in small easily digestible bites. Yes there are people who have much greater opportunities or advantages; but, there are also people who have achieved balance and success who have done so with less. She is driven by her commitment to positively impact the lives of individuals in a safe and effective environment..
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